Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted. 5But he was pierced for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his wounds we are healed. 6All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned—every one—to his own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all.
- Someone who has lost a loved one
- Someone who has lost their job
- Someone going through a divorce or significant break up
- Someone who has a major change in the state of their health
- Someone who has lost a pet
- Someone who has suffered a miscarriage
- Someone who has had a major change in their finances, such as retirement
- Someone who has lost an important friendship
According to WebMD, grief is expressed physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually. You may notice the following symptoms and signs in yourself or in others:
- Crying: anything from minor tearfulness to major episodes.
- Headaches: anything from minor pains to migraines.
- Loss of appetite: struggling to eat anything for extended periods of time.
- Difficulty sleeping: sleeping too much, too little, or have disrupted sleep.
- Weakness: feeling a lack of ability and energy to carry out tasks.
- Fatigue: tiredness that lasts all day, a sense of never feeling rested.
- Feelings of heaviness: feeling like your limbs are heavy and you have difficulty moving around freely.
- Aches and pains: unexplained aches and pains of the muscles, joints and bones.
- Sadness and yearning: overall sorrow and wanting for what you cannot have.
- Worry: feelings of concern for the safety of yourself and those close to you.
- Anxiety: anxiousness and concern that something bad will happen.
- Frustration: feelings of frustration that you could not stop something from happening.
- Anger: being angry that you could not do more for the person, or to prevent the loss.
- Guilt: feeling guilt that you have survived and are well, while the other person is gone.
- Depression: sadness at the loss, and that nothing can be done to change the situation.
- Suicidal thoughts and actions: when you get truly depressed and feel lost, you may resort to these types of thoughts and actions.
- PTSD: when the loss is so severe that you are actually traumatized.
- Feeling detached from others: feeling a lack of connection to the people in your life, whether they are close to you or acquaintances.
- Isolating yourself from social contact: Cutting yourself off from friends and family, typically due to depression.
- Behaving in ways that are not normal for you: isolating, having mood issues, being emotional at random times, and being overwhelmed with feelings of sadness.
- Questioning the reason for your loss: trying to find meaning and a reason for the loss.
- The purpose of pain and suffering: trying to understand why you and why the person or thing you have lost was chosen for such pain.
- The purpose of life: questioning the purpose of life, which is likely to result in depression and suicidal thoughts.
- The meaning of death: questioning the deep meaning of things.
- Medical Implications of Grief
- Suicidal thoughts or behaviors
- Increased risk of physical illness, such as heart disease, cancer or high blood pressure
- Significant sleep disturbances
- Long-term difficulty with daily living, relationships or work activities
- Post-traumatic stress disorder
- Alcohol or substance misuse
- Nicotine use, such as smoking
Abbreviated Grief and Mourning
This is typically the shortest lived of all 8 types of grief. The person feels that they do not have much time to grieve, and typically the loss is seen as more minor than in other situations. Moving to a new town and away from what you know can be a perceived minor grief. It is often when things have moved quickly with little time to react and process.
Anticipated Grief and Mourning
This is the type of grief when you know that the change or loss is coming. You may feel that you would rather avoid the situation or pretend that it is not going to happen. There is a feeling that this denial will keep the grief from occurring. In this type of grief, we often see people try and shut down their emotions as a means of coping.
Ambiguous Grief and Mourning
In this type of grieving, the loss is hard to explain or pinpoint. This makes it very hard to grieve the loss, as it is not clearly understood. However, if these losses build upon each other people are known to burst out crying, have uncontrollable fits, or simply shut down emotionally.
Delayed Grief and Mourning
This is the type of grief where a person tells themselves that they do not have time to grieve, that they have more important things to do, and that they do not have the time to grieve now. The grief will not come out until a short time later when they finally have time to stop what they are doing, and they will grieve as they are able. They may feel that verge of tears feeling while they are at work.
Exaggerated Grief and Mourning
This is when you have had multiple griefs that have built upon each other such as the loss of a job, the end of a relationship, and the loss of a pet. It happens when people suffer many losses and never process the grief. With this type of grief, it suddenly comes in with overwhelming feelings of depression and sadness. The individual suddenly struggles to complete tasks of everyday living.
Inhibited Grief and Mourning
This happens when the grief is not processed for so long, when it has been shoved down and ignored. It comes out as physical symptoms such as nausea and frequent headaches. The longer the grief is not dealt with, the worse the physical ailments.
Normal Grief and Mourning
The process of fully grieving can take anywhere from 3-24 months. This is because we all process grief differently, and we all perceive grief differently. What one person’s perceives as a minor loss, the other may perceive as a major devastation.
Unresolved Grief and Mourning
This often happens when children were moved around a lot when they were little. When they did not have time to process each loss of leaving after getting settled each time. These individuals have difficulties forming lasting relationships, feelings of rootlessness, underlying anger and resentment.